Friday, July 6, 2012

Who Needs Friends?

I've been going over and over this in my head and it's only become more difficult to put into words what friendship means to me. Honestly, in our society the word friendship has lost its meaning. To the world a friend is here today gone tomorrow; they'll love you today and then stab you in the back. Unfortunately, I have experienced this to a degree a couple of times as have most of us.

As said by Pastor Nate many times, "God created us deficient by design." He did not intend for us to go through life alone. God created such a thing as Godly friendship. There are people that He will bring into your life to serve that very purpose.

There are so many examples I could give you of how God has blessed me with true Godly friends but we would be here all day. These friends don't just tell me what I want to hear. They speak truth in love into my life. They believe and see the best in me when I can't see it for myself. They refuse to jump on the gossip train and choose to rise above. They encourage and challenge me as a wife and mother. Above all they pray for me and always point me right back to the truth of God's Word. These kind of friendships aren't born overnight. They take time, effort and a huge amount of trust.

The situations that alot of friends would turn and run from, my friends ran towards them. When Averie was born, my friends were there. When I held her in the hospital, they were there. When we brought her home, they were there. The night she died, they were there. When I needed to fall apart, they were there. When I needed "girl time," they were there. When I needed to hear the truth, they were there. They understood the unspoken word, they knew what I needed most of the time before I did. Those are things I don't take lightly and are forever engraved on my heart because I know these people were sent to me straight from my God who loves ME so much. They truly are an extension of Christ; His hands and feet.

There was a time when I believed all friendships would end; they would run their course and be over. God proved me wrong yet again and through my tragedy HE showed me that friendships that are designed and ordained by HIM can never end. Different seasons come and go but just like a marriage, if your friendship is rooted in Christ, there can be no end.

I've always loved this passage and refer to it alot when speaking of my BESTIES.

But Ruth replied, "Don't urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. (Ruth 1:16 NIVUK)

This is what I've experience these last five years. My definition of "Friend" has completely changed!

"Ive been burned too many times."

"Friends only cause drama"

"I don't need friends."

Ive heard these and many more so many times. My question is, have you allowed yourself to be led by the Holy Spirit when choosing who you invest your time in?

Open yourself up to this kind of friendship, first and most importantly, with Jesus Christ. Then ask him to bring those individuals into your life who He wishes you to build a friendship centered around Him.

When we abandon ourselves and put absolute trust in HIM, he will blow our minds and our old way of thinking will no longer hold weight. Remember, His plans for you are ONLY good! Get to know Him today; Trust Him.


  1. Wow, I just want to say thank you for sharing your heart. What an amazing person you are, and so inspiring.

  2. Tressa, thank you so much for sharing your story with us. I have been blessed beyond words. Thank you for allowing God to use you to help others. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Blessings...